Teen Dating Violence

Are you involved in a dating relationship that is abusive or potentially abusive? Ask yourself the following questions. If you answer "yes" to any of the questions you are potentially in an unhealthy relationship:

• Is your partner jealous or possessive?
• Does your partner dislike your friends?
• Does your partner not let you have friends?
• Does your partner have a "quick temper"?
• Does your partner have a rigid idea of gender roles?
• Does your partner try to control you or make all the decisions?
• Do you worry about how your partner will react to things you do or say?
• Do you get a lot of negative verbal teasing from your partner?
• Are you comfortable with your partner's "playful" slaps and shoves?
• Does your partner's behavior change if he/she drinks or uses drugs?
• Does your partner pressure you to use alcohol or drugs?
• Do you feel it is your responsibility to make the relationship work?
• Are you afraid of what your partner might do if he/she becomes angry?
• Are you afraid to end the relationship?
• Do you believe your partner will not accept breaking up?
• Does your partner blame you when he/she mistreats you?
• Does your partner threaten to hurt your pets?

For Parents - Signs of Dating Violence

• Your teen has bruises, bite marks, black eyes or other unexplained physical injuries.
• Your teen is unwilling to discuss her or his dating relationship.
• Your teen is withdrawn.
• Your teen is spending a lot of time alone.
  

If you are the victim of a teen batterer...

• Talk to your parents if you can, or tell a friend, teacher, counselor or relative.
• Contact the DVSAC to help you make a safety plan.
• As a minor, you can get a restraining order. For help with a restraining order, contact DVSAC.