Teens are deeply hurt by family violence.  It can affect them directly and indirectly.  They can be directly affected when they are the victims and are neglected or physically, emotionally, or sexually abused.  Teens are affected indirectly when they see or hear family members hurt one another.

Teens in violent homes can suffer from some very serious problems as a result of witnessing or being a victims of the violence.  Some of these problems include physical injury, depression, anxiety, alcohol or drug use, poor self esteem, thoughts of suicide, resorting to criminal behavior or growing up to commit abuse in their own home.

What can you do if you are in a Violent Home?

• Talk to a trusted adult and tell them about the violence (family member, neighbor, teacher, counselor, friend’s parent etc.)
• Call our 24 hours crisis line 530-272-3467 to speak with an advocate or come into the office and talk with an advocate in person.  No appointment needed just walk in M-F 9 to 5 pm.
• Develop a personal safety plan in case you need escape the violence quickly and get to safety.  This plan may include a safe place to go/safe person, a list of important hotlines and phone numbers, a packed bag of essentials etc.
• Seek counseling and therapy to help re-build self esteem, express emotions in a healthy way and build trust again.  DVSAC can refer you to a local therapist that specializes in family violence issues.  There are some low to no cost counseling centers in Nevada County, call DVSAC for more information 530-272-3467.

Safety for Teens

When the fighting starts

• Stay out of the room where the fighting is happening.
• Stay out of small rooms where you might get trapped like a closet or a bathroom.
• Stay out of the kitchen or garage, where it is easy to get hurt during a fight.
• GET HELP! Go to a safe place, like a neighbor’s or friend’s house.
• If you need help right away and it is a dangerous situation CALL 911.

Things to think about

• Which doors, windows or stairs are the safest way to get out of your house during a fight.
• Which trusted adults could you talk to about getting help?

Remember:  It’s not your fault!