My unhealthy Relationship…I started dating a guy freshman year that I fell head over heels for. He took my virginity that year and I later found out he was cheating on me. I thought I could give him a second chance and he would change but that was a mistake. We dated off and on for three years because I though he was the best I could get. Through all the years though he became a heroin addict. He forced sex upon me all the time. Even in public places. When he would shoot up he would hurt me, choke me, hit me and would tell me if I didn’t do drugs with him he would put it in my arm for me. I never did them but he became more and more disrespectful and hurtful. He started to be come a huge threat in my life. In the end the outcome was a horrible heartbreak, a waste of three years and I later found out he cheated on me with over nine girls. He lied, was manipulative, very controlling and yet very sensitive, at least only for his own feelings. He always twisted things around and made it seem like my fault. A lot of girls stay in an abusive relationship because they have not met a good guy yet, they may be insecure and may not have a very good relationship with their fatherly figures. After being treated like crap for years I realized that I thought it was normal for a boyfriend to treat their girl like that. I would put up with so much in hopes he would change but I met a guy this last year who has treated me like a Queen, respects me and doesn’t lie to my face. He’s changed my whole point of view, making me realize I didn’t deserve a single thing that asshole did to me. I just hope more girls out there would realize that and not blame themselves. No girl deserves that hurtful betrayal. I have not had any contact with him for months and the last time I saw him he was on the side of the road panhandling. Karmas a B**** but he deserves every last bit of it.
~Anonymous Teen, Nevada Union High School
is eyes, personality, physical appearance, just everything about him makes you smile and light up from the inside out. You love him and would do anything for him!That’s how I felt about my old boyfriend. Each day I would get up and check my phone right away to see if he texted me, all I wanted was to see him and always be around him. He made me feel like the girl with the nearly perfect boyfriend that the other girls were jealous of. He made me so happy that I would have dropped everything for him. Stupid, I know but love can make people do strange things.
He asked one thing of me, just one, to not talk to or see my ex boyfriend. That same week my ex had come and talked to me, some people told my boyfriend before I could. I didn’t have the chance to explain to him that I told my ex boyfriend that we could not talk anymore and that I didn’t want to. My boyfriend felt angry and lied to, perhaps betrayed.
As time went by, I could just feel the cage walls closing in, the door shutting and hearing the “click” of a lock in my head. I lost all my friends, privacy, and so much more. I wasn’t allowed to talk to anyone, not even my girlfriends I had for 11 years. My phone was checked to make sure I wasn’t talking to anyone but him and that no one was trying to talk to me. My facebook page was deactivated as well as my e-mail.
Everyday I had to tell him where I was on campus, and what class I was leaving or going to. All the people around me were saying that I shouldn’t let him do that, blaming him and telling me I need to get out of the situation before it got worse. But of course I just looked at the ground and walked away without a word. Having to isolate myself from everything hurt a lot, being alone every moment away from him, but the only reason I put up with it without protest was the minor thought of loosing him seemed ten times more arduous then being alone. When I tried to leave he knew how to pull me back in. I felt like I was just a chess piece in his mental game. I couldn’t tell anyone and tried not to show it but it was difficult.
In the end, he decided I was no longer needed and just cut off communication all together. Despite the pain I felt when I was trying my hardest to make him happy, being alone felt worse. I was as though each day grew darker and fare as more passed…
~Anonymous Teen, Nevada Union High School